Totally Agree

 

Totally agree.

Coming here in Australia, I have had dreamt of establishing my own family. I was married before and our plan was to migrate to Australia and build a family here.

I am divorced now for about five years.

As a migrant, establishing a family here in Australia is not easy. Since my ex-wife has so many relatives in Sydney, we have decided that she first settle in Sydney whilst I establish myself here in Western Australia. That was the plan or so I thought.

Going on six months here in Perth, somehow, I have had established a stable income, I have had asked my ex-wife to come over and I am ready. My ex-wife wouldn’t want to come here in Perth anymore and kept on giving me false promises to come over. What makes it worse was that she demands a lot of things before coming over, like a steady 500 AUD weekly allowance, a decent apartment/house by the river or near the beach, high-end furniture, and appliances, etc.

So, I thought of she was just making alibis not to come here. There were rumours already that she is dating someone in Sydney, but I am not really into rumours. Then she told me that she’s ready to come here but for just two weeks, just to feel Perth. I was at the tipping point at that time already. So, I gave her an ultimatum because her demands were getting ridiculous already. To end the story, she ends up filing a divorce, to my satisfaction.

It took me years to recover, not because of the divorce, but because on how she has had put me into bad light. From being an abusive husband, un-apologetic person, etc.

These dark episodes in my life challenged me as a person and somehow helped me developed my character moving forward. Being naturally a happy person, and having a positive outlook in life, I can relate to Martin Selignam’s view on Positive Psychology. You may have experience something that is not as you hoped for, but one must always think of improving their life through engagement and helping people in anywhere you can. The happiest people are the givers.